Journey to truly in love... with yourself

Before we take this journey together. I want you to know some things about me.

I just recently turned 35. (Yikes!) Okay, so it’s not that bad trust me ladies. It does make you think about your life and what you really want to be. In your twenties everything seems to be carefree and you have your whole life ahead of you, then here comes thirty all big and bad and watch out now you begin to feel like you should probably get a move on. If your like me with no husband, no kids, no career you got all your married friends and family asking you when are you going to settle down, like it’s your fault you haven’t done all those things already. You begin to feel like a slacker. It wasn’t as if I didn’t want all those things. It just never happened for me. I was starting to throw myself pity parties on a regular basis, but I never once thought of enjoying the time I wasted throwing myself these pity parties. I spent a good deal of my twenties wanting what I didn’t have. I watched friends and loved ones get married, have kids and I mourned what I never had. After a while that just gets old and tired. I started to look closer at the source of the problem and found the source. The root of it all was me. How was I the cause of not getting the very things I wanted in my life. Simply because somewhere deep inside I didn’t think I deserved them. I didn’t think I deserved them because I didn’t love myself. Have you ever been in love? Do you know that feeling of everything being right with the world because that person is in it and they love you? You know how their little imperfections are just adorable and you can’t get enough. But we are not so forgiving of ourselves are we? We are not so loving of our imperfections. We hide from the world under make-up, clothes, fat, and our attitudes. We hide our so called imperfections from the world but who are we inside? Are we blotchy skin, size 10 feet in size 8 Jimmy Choos, back fat or ever our stank attitudes we use to protect the soft parts of us that absorb negativity like a sponge? NO! We are not. Our essence is pure light and love. We are a spark of the divine. How can you love God and not love his best creation, you! You are God’s most precious child so act like it. Love yourself. Stop hiding that light under a bushel. Shine as you were meant to do. God did not give you a light to hide it. I want you to do something for me. Let’s call it our first assignment. I want you to go to the nearest mirror and I want you to tell the person staring at you that you love them. Do this without judgment. Say it like you are speaking to your dearest loved one. Sometimes this can be a very emotional thing so if anything comes up let it come don’t judge it. This first time I want you to tell yourself that you love you three times that’s it. We spend so much time making sure that our kids and significant others know that they are loved that we forget about ourselves. We must never forget that in order to take care of others we must take care of ourselves. It may feel like a silly thing to do, but trust me, you will begin to understand the reason for it in time.